Sexual Abuse: Facing Your Abusers

If you were to confront your abuser what would you say? How would you react if they acted like they had amnesia and gave the impression that you are mentally ill, or crazy? It’s been a long time. They seem to have forgotten, but you remember every detail. You make your accusations and they look at you like you have loss your mind.

Choosing to face your abusers can cause great anxiety after all those years gone by, the burial and now the resurrection. Where do you start? Do you say, “Do you remember trading quarters for sexual pleasure?” or “Do you remember what you did to me?”

These are awkward moments only to discover that person may not give you the satisfaction you are looking for, whatever that maybe. Your abuser’s reactions may crush your spirit, after all you think if you confront they will come clean. It may not happen.

Can you live with never confronting your abuser? You will have to if they are dead, unless you want to go to their grave and tell them your side of the story. It’s not fair; is it? But that is reality in the world of the sexually abused. Confronting your abuser has its challenges emotionally. The sad part, what you hoped to happen as this moment climaxed (confronting your abuser) it is a big let down. All those years of buildup, what you thought you would say, disappointing, bordering on depression because what you really wanted to accomplish was to hurt them like they hurt you, but that can’t be done to the abuser with words.

Verbal assault is not the answer, neither is killing that person. It still will not restore what you have lost, what you have become. So go out and purchase a personal journal and use your pen to tell that person what you want them to know. Yes, there will be tears shed, anxiety, hatred, anger, frustration but if you will keep writing you will find peace and a breakthrough will be your precious reward.

You can start the journal with a letter addressed to the person, or you can use the journal as a way of setting before God all that you know, feel and have experienced. By saying, “Dear God, I acknowledge this is outside of what I can bear but help me to free my anguished soul.”

Get busy. There is a light at the end of what you thought was a dark day in your life. Share your thoughts in the “Amazing Grace” Journal. (Click Here)