So you've been emotionally wounded. Somebody you trusted and loved has hurt, betrayed or abandoned you. Part of you feels as if you will never recuperate. You cry. You sulk. You lie around the house depressed. You lose all your energy and interest in the outside world.

Then one day, your mood changes, your energy builds and you gradually come back to a semblance of your former self. You let the world know that you have gotten over that painful situation, that you are over it, and that you are ready to move on. 

Problem is, your emotional wound has not disappeared. The wound has just gotten buried in a deeper layer of your consciousness. You move on with your life but your emotional wound remains as a scar. Years later, in some unexpected way, someone behaves in a way that causes your scar to burn again. You may feel intense emotions at an apparently inappropriate time. Your scar has been scraped again.

Here are the 3 simple steps to actually heal your emotional wounds so that you are truly free to live your life and love again.

• Acknowledge your wound, admit that you do have a wound, and feel the pain of the wound

• Discover, explore, examine and dig deep into the layers of your emotional wound

• Gently, kindly and with soothing attention, nurture your wound back to health

Before you can even begin to heal your wound, you must be aware that you do have a wound. You need to reveal the emotional wound, buried deep in your subconscious, and bring it up to your conscious awareness. If you don't know if you have such a wound, ask your closest friends, intimate partner or family members. Sometimes other people who know you can see something that is glaring to them and somewhat hidden from you.

Once you have acknowledged your wound, the next step is to dig and dig until you discover the sometimes elusive source. If you cannot identify the exact moment in your earlier life when you first felt the pain, you may be able to recall the earliest memory you have when you felt that unexpected emotional reaction.

After you have acknowledged your emotional wound and discovered the possible source of the pain, now you are ready to begin the healing process. This is perhaps the most crucial stage. It cannot be rushed and you must be really nurturing so that the wound can completely heal. Now is the time to show yourself the love that you long to receive from others. Talk to your emotional wound, tell it that you need that part of yourself to come back and help you to be whole and complete.

When you have completed this 3 step process, you will feel calmer and more accepting of your life as it is. And the people around you will definitely notice a pleasing difference.

Dr. Erica Goodstone, a Spiritual Relationship Expert, has helped thousands of men, women, couples, and groups to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships and their lives, to overcome and alleviate stressors and discords, and to revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Dr. Goodstone can be contacted through her web site at http://www.DrEricaWellness.com and you can take the Create Healing and Love Now Personal quiz and get your free personal report and bonus gifts at http://www.createhealingandlovenow.com.

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